summertime. here in israel that means three and a half weeks that parents need to find a way to keep their kids busy. in my case, that means i am a full time daddy for that period of time. as far as fotography goes, i have the opportunity to document my children’s lives as they unfold in front of me. i can think of no greater pleasure. but, before i touch on that subject any further, a little background.
i grew up in a traditional household. my father worked and my stay-at-home mother took care of us. this is how i always imagined raising a family would be like for me as well. it was a model that worked and narrow-mindedly made that the only viable option for me, psychologically speaking. as it turns out, life is more dynamic than that and this style of family didn’t become my current reality.
i am an educator, teacher as it was. i teach english both privately and publicly. therefore, i am the primary caretaker of my children most of the time. i have become what my mother was to me. wrapping my head around this idea was difficult at the beginning. i wrongly thought i had failed as a husband and father. i hadn’t become the bread-winner i always thought i would be. i would refer to myself as the “mommy” of the family because this is a position that was stored away in my conscious as belonging to the female sex. i was wrong, of course.
today, i view things much differently. i am daddy. there is no other name for it and the position is just as real and fulfilling for me as i imagine it was for my mother. it is an idea that is fully mine. even as i write this, my ownership of it only strengthens.
so how is all this connected to my fotography? that’s easy. i have the daily opportunity to catch moments of joy, sadness, fear, love, etc. as they flash across my children’s faces. these candid snapshots capture moments that will never return- both for me and for them. i hope one day to create a family foto book that will tell the story of my children’s youth. maybe it will help answer questions in the future. or perhaps it will create some. we’ll see.
so to you, daddy or mommy, don’t miss out. live every moment you can with your children and remember that fotography is one of the only weapons we have against the fleetingness of time.
(side note: none of these fotos are taken on professional equipment. a simple point-and-shoot or a modern day mobile device are more than sufficient. i use what i have and make it work for me. i think ansel adams said something like, “the most important part in fotography is the twenty inches behind the camera.”)
log: twenty-one. eight. sixteen. havot yair, israel.